Everyone knows at least one person who will spend twice as much energy justifying why they stay in their rut. They are comfy there and they don’t want to leave. In 10, 20 or 30 years, if they persist, they will be at exactly the same place, in the same relationship or in the same job. What kind of life is that?
I think one of the things that helped me progress at steady rate as a singer, was my ability to listen to comments from my musicians. I had a pianist who complained about my time, so I went and studied with a drummer for three months* Then I had other comments about my stage presence and my performance. I listened. Most times I gave my contributor the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes I would not agree in the end, but I always felt it was important to try things on for size. If we are emotionally attached to an issue or habit, our lack of detachment may cloud our vision. Then where do you go? How can you see clearly with all that emotional fog? Taking a step in a new direction, any new direction, will at least change our perspective. It may be all it takes to look back and see things more clearly. Then we can examine ourselves to see if adjustments need to be made. Only then you can decide what you keep or what you let go.
The deciding factor then becomes our willingness to change. No small thing. Well thought out excuses disguised as arguments don’t serve anyone (or fool anyone either.) Tsem Rinpoche tells us, our success and our failure depends on our ability to change our story. That takes courage. Be brave enough to try something new. You may find yourself closer to the real you in the end.
Namaste!
Bianca
*At my first lesson my teacher said to me, “Bianca, you don’t have an issue with time. There is nothing wrong with your time.” So we spent three months exploring notions of rhythm and it was great!
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