15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy*
3. Give up on blame
When I was 20 my friend’s dad was a psychologist. Dinner at their house always proved to have very interesting conversation subjects. One such time he said to us, “Some believe that the only way to be happy is to look at your life as if you are responsible for everything that happens to you.”Can you imagine the discourse that ensued? I have never forgotten that moment. It was a turning point; one of many that started changing the way I looked at my life.
It is interesting to observe what happens. As time passed, I noticed that when we blame others, we give our power away. When we can put blame elsewhere, then we assume lies with someone else. The situation is out of our control. (Hmmm, control was #2...) If it is out of our control then there is nothing we can do to change it. There is another way.
When we have a commitment to harmony, we can keep looking until we find a solution. Finding fault usually had no great residual value in interpersonal relationships. If every time we are dissatisfied with a situation or outcome, we say to ourselves, “What could I have done differently?” then we are on the path to learning.
Life sends us the same lessons over and over until we get it. So as long as you blame anything or anyone on the outside of you, those lessons will just keep coming. Keep your power. Claim responsibility. Be proud of your mistakes. It means you are on the path to wisdom.
Namaste!
Bianca
This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.
Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music with a vintage flavor, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.
*I found this list on a Facebook post but it did not have the author credited. If someone is aware of its originator please let me know.
Eric Friesen, Marc Langis and Saskia Friesen at Red Rock Canyon, Nevada.
3. Give up on blame
When I was 20 my friend’s dad was a psychologist. Dinner at their house always proved to have very interesting conversation subjects. One such time he said to us, “Some believe that the only way to be happy is to look at your life as if you are responsible for everything that happens to you.”Can you imagine the discourse that ensued? I have never forgotten that moment. It was a turning point; one of many that started changing the way I looked at my life.
It is interesting to observe what happens. As time passed, I noticed that when we blame others, we give our power away. When we can put blame elsewhere, then we assume lies with someone else. The situation is out of our control. (Hmmm, control was #2...) If it is out of our control then there is nothing we can do to change it. There is another way.
When we have a commitment to harmony, we can keep looking until we find a solution. Finding fault usually had no great residual value in interpersonal relationships. If every time we are dissatisfied with a situation or outcome, we say to ourselves, “What could I have done differently?” then we are on the path to learning.
Life sends us the same lessons over and over until we get it. So as long as you blame anything or anyone on the outside of you, those lessons will just keep coming. Keep your power. Claim responsibility. Be proud of your mistakes. It means you are on the path to wisdom.
Namaste!
Bianca
This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.
Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music with a vintage flavor, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.
*I found this list on a Facebook post but it did not have the author credited. If someone is aware of its originator please let me know.
Eric Friesen, Marc Langis and Saskia Friesen at Red Rock Canyon, Nevada.