15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy
14 . Give up attachment.
“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached. ” - Simone Weil
Finding this quote was like putting glasses on. It allowed me to see things more clearly. I guess that is the gift of a great philosopher. So let’s ponder that a moment shall we?
In reading Simone Weil’s words I started to think about the things I am attached to. What emotions are linking me to the people and things contained therein? We have all seen (or lived) relationships where the image of better days, long passed, are what keeps the couple together. Slowly chipping away at their happiness, their attachment is in vain. It is in vain because it is an illusion. Reality requires an honest look at what it is we are attached to and why. Is our attachment out of date? Maybe it is “past due” and needs to be either returned, renewed or just tossed out. Stephen Levine (who wrote: A Year To Live: How To Live This Year As If It Were Your Last) explains that, "Detachment means letting go and non-attachment means simply letting be." That takes things even further. I keep feeling that non-attachment means not caring. But I know it means being able to remain unaffected. There is an observer quality to it all. Part of me that knows that we are talking about a freedom and a level of being in the Now that I haven’t quite mastered. Yet!
I have started over so many times in my life that my attachment to things is nominal for the most part. And I have lost enough people in my life to know that when they leave us we keep only our memories and moments with them. The attachment is what make us suffer. The detachment however makes our connection clear and that is what frees us. So on this Independence Day, make your own declaration to find your inner happiness in your real world.
Namaste!
Bianca
This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.
Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music with a vintage flavor, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.
14 . Give up attachment.
“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached. ” - Simone Weil
Finding this quote was like putting glasses on. It allowed me to see things more clearly. I guess that is the gift of a great philosopher. So let’s ponder that a moment shall we?
In reading Simone Weil’s words I started to think about the things I am attached to. What emotions are linking me to the people and things contained therein? We have all seen (or lived) relationships where the image of better days, long passed, are what keeps the couple together. Slowly chipping away at their happiness, their attachment is in vain. It is in vain because it is an illusion. Reality requires an honest look at what it is we are attached to and why. Is our attachment out of date? Maybe it is “past due” and needs to be either returned, renewed or just tossed out. Stephen Levine (who wrote: A Year To Live: How To Live This Year As If It Were Your Last) explains that, "Detachment means letting go and non-attachment means simply letting be." That takes things even further. I keep feeling that non-attachment means not caring. But I know it means being able to remain unaffected. There is an observer quality to it all. Part of me that knows that we are talking about a freedom and a level of being in the Now that I haven’t quite mastered. Yet!
I have started over so many times in my life that my attachment to things is nominal for the most part. And I have lost enough people in my life to know that when they leave us we keep only our memories and moments with them. The attachment is what make us suffer. The detachment however makes our connection clear and that is what frees us. So on this Independence Day, make your own declaration to find your inner happiness in your real world.
Namaste!
Bianca
This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.
Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music with a vintage flavor, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.
